What does it really mean to be “a man after God’s own heart”? That phrase is often used to describe King David, but David was far from perfect. He had a messy past, a long road to leadership, and plenty of enemies along the way. So why would God give him that title?

In this Father’s Day reflection, let’s take a look at 2 Samuel and explore what made David stand out not just as a king, but as a spiritual leader. Whether you are guiding a family, running a business, or simply trying to grow in your faith, these lessons from David’s journey still speak to us today.

1. He Showed Grace

When Saul died, David did not celebrate. He mourned. He honored Saul, the very man who tried to kill him, calling him “mighty” and praising his leadership. David even wrote a song of lament for him and Jonathan.

Rather than using Saul’s downfall to elevate himself, David protected Saul’s legacy for the good of the nation. That kind of humility and grace reveals a heart that values redemption over revenge.

“Saul and Jonathan, in life they were loved and admired, and in death they were not parted. They were swifter than eagles, they were stronger than lions.”
2 Samuel 1:23

2. He Prayed First

David did not assume the throne without seeking God. After Saul’s death, David asked the Lord, “Should I go up?” (2 Samuel 2:1). And each time he faced battle or decisions, he inquired of God again.

Prayer was not something David saved for emergencies. It was his first response. He did not rely on his instincts or experience. He relied on the Lord.

Are you praying first, or calling on God only when things fall apart?

3. He Expected Opposition

Even though David was anointed by God, his leadership was met with resistance. His reign began with civil conflict, betrayal, and chaos. But David did not allow opposition to derail his obedience.

Not all storms come because of disobedience. Jonah faced one while running from God. The disciples faced one while following Jesus. Obedience does not remove hardship. Often, it invites it.

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Psalm 34:18

4. He Did What Was Right

David consistently chose the right path, even when it was hard. When Joab murdered Abner, David publicly condemned it. When two men brought him Ishbosheth’s head hoping for a reward, David had them executed for their wickedness.

Though he made mistakes, David led with integrity. He refused to align himself with evil and made difficult decisions to honor what was right. That is the mark of godly leadership.

5. He Followed God Fully

David was anointed three different times before fully ruling over Israel. He waited for God’s timing. He did not rush, manipulate, or force his way into power. He trusted that promotion comes from the Lord.

Eventually, David captured Jerusalem and made it the City of David. That earthly city would one day point to a heavenly one. Just like David, Jesus would rise through hardship, walk into darkness, and establish an eternal Kingdom.

David was not chasing his own legacy. He was following God’s lead. That is what made him a man after God’s own heart.

What About You?

You do not need to be perfect to be used by God. You need to be surrendered.

Maybe you have been building your own kingdom. Maybe you are doing the right things, but in your own strength. Maybe you are in a storm right now and wondering where God is in it all.

David’s story reminds us that God works through messy people and complicated situations. Just like God brought David to the throne, He can bring peace, direction, and purpose to your life.

Let us walk with you. Plan your visit to Liberty Live Church at libertylive.church/visit, or reach out and fill out our Connect Card. We’d love to help you take your next step with Jesus.

There’s still time to become a man or woman after God’s own heart. Let Him write your story.